Overloving your love to your Beloved

Love has always been an important part of everyone's life. Well people say it hards to find and keep but what if you find the one and know how to keep. Doesn't that sounds perfectly perfect. There is always a but to it when in a couple there is one such person who loves, cares, gives his/ her best in the relationship than another one. The chances of them getting hurt are most of the time  vast. 

Sometimes I believe there is nothing known or termed as too much love but then I feel there may be such things which we feel and express. We term Love like the Love of my life and want them for the rest of our life but this act can be selfish. Women / Man who love too much is not considering the other person’s feelings and desires. You may feel like you’re showing love, but if you’re being motivated by your own insecurity about the relationship or your own fears about losing this person, then you’re probably more in the smothering camp. Love gives, it prioritizes according to the other partner's requirement without being needy for the self.

You may love that person, but do you really love them? When you give too much of what you thought of giving you lose the capacity within when he/ she jeopardise your emotions. The future beholding with the partner becomes difficult when things keep revolving in your mind and you are not able to give it a break because you scared to be alone and the memories haunt. This is not just in case for the lover or girlfriends/ boyfriends, this could also happen with the parental nature where some feel loving their child too much can spoil them. but the need is to understand what is good for the kids in the short and long term. So as this applies with the kids toot when they feel their sibling been loved more than them or they are not being given enough amount of attention, for that instances kids need to acquire the knowledge that parents are the birth givers and will love equally.  

We cannot expect our beloved to be just like us and love our world. Some reports show that women tend to love more than the man does in some cases. Women have the tendency to think ahead of the future with their beloved and man lives in past and present. Women require unnecessary commitments and tend to pressure our partners for the devotion they are not sure for because we women are calculative in nature about our life, career and growth. Women who love too much tend to exercise this practice as they demand attention or reassurance from the other person, requiring repeated statements of proof of their commitment level or feelings they have. On the other hand, when you love someone, you’re willing to patiently waits. When you love, you enjoy the present, allowing the other person and the relationship to progress at a comfortable pace. You might still question ‘why do I love my boyfriend so much’ – but you don’t apply pressure to him for the answer or the solution. You wait for both of you to become ready for a certain level of intimacy, instead of asking for premature answers or commitments that can put pressure on the other person and scare him or her away. 

We women and sometimes men require a certain level of affirmations from there partner so they can plan things accordingly and I feel a small affirmation will not harm any relationship it just gives a sense of security and responsibility to work on the defaults of the relationship and grow. In the end we all are greedy in love start to expect our share of  efforts, attention and time. it’s time to stop asking yourself ‘why do I love my boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wie so much’ and start asking ‘why is this relationship unbalanced and unequal?’